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Feminists will be the last beneficiaries of enlightenment.  This is something I realized upon contemplating on sharing my complaints about being a 2nd rate citizen.  The first layer that has to be stripped off is THEISM.  Most if not all religions say that women submit, obey, and are 2nd rate humans.  The second layer to peel off is CULTURE.  Most cultures that has set tradition and practices view women as mere supporters of men.  This is what CONFUCIANISM  in CHINESE and KOREAN culture teach.  Even the Filipino-Spanish culture of Maria Clara and modest virgin girls are crazy.   The European chivalry culture also sucks.   If the culture is non-culture, then girls will be more progressive or has a better chance to progress.

I realize I shouldn’t even bother empowering girls who are theists and/or culturists.  It’s going to be tedious and a waste of my energy.


I often complain about how girls in general tend to live half-a-life, since they stop growing and developing when they start having romantic relationships and/or kids.  Although some men can be guilty of such, at least they are not as complacent in some areas like maybe their work or their sports.  Moms train their kids on swimming, tennis, judo, vocabulary building, sudoku, spelling, while they themselves stop and “feel old”, stopping at age 20-25.  I also often complain how our charitable billionaires focus so much on feeding the poor, and just making more people “merely survive”.  Few of our charitable billionaires invest their extra money in transforming more people into “self-actualizers”.   While a billion people live as maggots, only a few people are “truly alive, authentic, and thrive”.

My idea of thriving doesn’t necessarily mean that all people become Bill Gates.  In reality, if we listen to our inner self, most of us have just simple ideals.   “Sense of fit” is what I call it, too.  We form, own, practice, and embody our personal values and philosophical convictions.  We do the things that’s fitted for us.  We are with friends and partner that’s fitted for us.  Alive, Authentic, Thrive…

I bumped into a very nice article about self-actualization that says it all..

Many of my contemporaries have gotten married already.  Some have their own kids as well.  For some reason, I pity many of them, even if they claim to be happy or are even truly happy with their current situations.   I noticed that a lot of women just live half a life, or even just one third or one fourth of their life.  The rest of their life goes to a state of delusion, where the successes and adventures, activities and interactions are actualized by their children, and not themselves.

Mothers enroll their kids to classes in swimming, painting, sketching, singing, dancing, languages and take so much pride in their successes.  If they deem these activities worthwhile to do, why don’t they do it themselves? (Am I hearing lousy excuses?)  Many of my athlete schoolmates do not engage in any sports anymore.  And this is not because they have replaced their sport with another sport or any developmental activity.  It is because their life is finished, it’s done.  They have already lived their “half-a-life”.

The scary part of this half-a-life culture is it’s inherited and passed on from generation to generation unconsciously and unknowingly. Woman lives half-a-life, gives birth to daughter who also lives half-a-life, and encourages her own daughter to “sacrifice” and live half-a-life for her offspring.  In the end, nobody lives a full life. Maybe some men do, some gays also do, but seldom it will be for women.